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Reality vs Expectations Of Having A Baby

Motherhood, LifestyleVeronica ArrietaComment

I'm only 3 weeks into being a Mom and feel like I can write a novel on things I wish I had known before I had a baby. Not necessarily advice about the baby because let's be honest everyday is a learning day, but more so things I needed to understand.

1. Contrary to popular belief, you won’t sleep when the baby sleeps. Even though everyone always says "sleep when the baby sleeps," it just doesn't happen. You'll want to spend time with your spouse, you’ll want to shower, you’ll want to eat, you'll want to work, you'll want to clean, etc. I can legitimately laugh at the thought that I would nap when she naps.

2. You’ll miss your weekly OB visits. Anyone else?! Especially towards the end of pregnancy, when you're going in for your weekly appointments. I loved my OB and nurse and in a weird way miss driving to the appointment and waiting for updates on Olivia. Am I weird for saying this?  

3. You can throw all the books you read out of the window. The ONE book that I actually got some good and honest stuff from was Girlfriend's Guide To Pregnancy.

4. Where do the days go? Babies are the biggest time spenders and you can stare at them all day long. Whether you're changing a dirty diaper, trying to get things done when they nap, or feeding them every 2/3 hours, you'll look at the time and think where did the day go?!

Does anyone else feel this way? I'm sure this doesn't apply to everyone, and if you're a mom that can nap when your little one naps then I applaud you. But I'm just speaking for myself and think it's humorous now looking back.

There are certain things I wanted to hold onto after having a baby - some I've stuck with and others have been harder to keep up with. One thing I've tried to hold onto is getting dressed. Now it doesn't happen every day but I feel more sane when I'm showered, dressed and have makeup on. What are some things you have held onto as a Mom? What helps make you feel more sane and yourself so you can be the best Mom to your little one? 

What To Wear To A Maternity Photo Shoot

FashionVeronica ArrietaComment

White Rachel Pally Dress c/o | Blush Sew Trendy Dress c/o

Deciding what to wear can be a daily struggle when you're pregnant, so let's just add the stress of deciding what to wear to your maternity photo shoot while you're super pregnant and full of crazy hormones. You obviously want to look your best and have your photos come out beautiful, but the struggle is real my friends. If you're searching for the perfect outfit to wear to your upcoming maternity shoot, here are some ideas that will help you look and feel your best, while showing off that perfect bump of yours! 

When we moved to Atlanta in February I was in dire need to find a photographer for maternity and newborn photos so took to Instagram to find Hayley and boy am I glad I did! If you’re in need of a photographer in Atlanta to capture your life’s greatest moments, check out Hayley Johnson Photography!


What To Wear To A Maternity Photo Shoot 

Flowy Maxi Dress

A flowy maxi dress is perfect for a maternity shoot because it's so comfortable. And we all want to be as comfortable as we can be around 30+ weeks pregnant. It covers up anything you don't want shows but can also show off your baby bump when pulled against your belly. Not to mention the flowy fabric creates a movement in a snapshot. 

A Tight Fitting Dress

I'm all about the tight fitting dresses for maternity shoots. You're only pregnant once-ish (unless your planning on having a few more kids) so rock that baby bump proud Mommy. I love a tight bodycon dress on a pregnant body because it shows all your beautiful curves.  


Talk to your photographer about having two outfits for your maternity shoot, you could opt for a casual outfit and a dressy outfit. This will give you options when picking out which photos you want in your house forever. I went with a more casual flowy dress and a dressier tight bodycon dress, and was so excited to see the different shots Hayley was able to take. 


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My Experience on The Ellen DeGeneres Mother's Day Giveaway Show

Lifestyle, FashionVeronica ArrietaComment

I wanted to give you the inside scoop of what it's like to be in the audience of The Ellen Show Mother's Day Giveaway show. I've also gotten a ton of questions as to how I got on the show, what to wear, etc. so will be going into detail on the whole experience. Let me just preface this post by saying, I am speaking from my experience alone from her Mother's Day Show. 

Also, my photos are mediocre, at best. I had to use my iPhone as opposed to a real camera, but I did my best to sneak in a few pictures as they had a very strict 'no photos policy.'

Let's start from the beginning...How I applied to The Ellen Show's Mother's Day Giveaway?

You apply here on her website. I was checking basically everyday in February and March to see if she had updated it from 2016 to 2017. In April they updated the site to 2017, which was the green light for the first-time-mom's to finally apply. Because of my persistency of checking the site daily, I basically applied the day they listed. 

I filled out the application with all my information, a picture of Mike and I (we used one of these), my due date, social media handles, and then 1500 characters to tell your story. In my story I shared where I grew up, what I do now, how my husband and I met, my pregnancy journey this far, my hopes and plans for our daughter, etc. Then I pressed submit, said a prayer and crossed my fingers.

They got back to be within a few days via email and told me I got on the Mother's Day Show (woohoo!!). I was so giddy with excitement and then we booked out flights to LA right away. They send the ticket to the show via email a week before the show tapes. The ticket included everything from the address, check-in, where to park, dress code, etc. 

What to wear to the The Ellen Mother's Day Show? 

The dress code is nice casual. You may be seen on TV, so you definitely want to look cute! Most of the women wore dresses and a light jacket. I wore a maxi dress, denim jacket, and sandals to the show. 

What happened the day of the show? 

The Audience Waiting Area/check-in area. I've never seen so many pregnant women in my life!!!

The Audience Waiting Area/check-in area. I've never seen so many pregnant women in my life!!!

Prior to the show they tell you to bring the biggest car you have because you never know what you're going to get in gift giveaways. We rented the biggest car in the Hertz parking lot, which just happened to be a Yukon XL SLT. We pulled in to Warner Brothers Studios, Gate 3, parked and went down to the check-in area, which is actually just a section of the parking garage. There were rows of benches, a roped off VIP section, TV screens with Ellen playing in the background. 

For the Mother's Day Show, each first-time-mom has a guaranteed ticket so you need to check-in, which was at 1:30pm for a 3:30pm show taping. I would recommend getting there earlier because they give you a number upon checking-in and that's essentially the order they bring you into the studio. We got there around 1pm and waited in line to get #158, my husband also got a number for the Riff Raff Room so he could watch. 

Closer to 3pm they had everyone line up according to their numbers and took us across the street to the set. The set looked much smaller than I had imagined. The seats were much closer to the stage than it looks on TV. 

The Riff Raff Room where the husbands and +1s sat during the show. This room also has The Ellen Show Shop, where we bought our little girl an Ellen onsie. 

The Riff Raff Room where the husbands and +1s sat during the show. This room also has The Ellen Show Shop, where we bought our little girl an Ellen onsie. 

From where I'm sitting. You can see where Ellen sits :)

From where I'm sitting. You can see where Ellen sits :)

The Ellen Show

This is the only show where they allow the audience members to get up and use the restroom during taping AND have food. You bet I took advantage of the food! :) 

This is the only show where they allow the audience members to get up and use the restroom during taping AND have food. You bet I took advantage of the food! :) 

Twitch came out and got the crowd excited and dancing, then a few minutes later the Ellen-music played, the blue doors parted, and Ellen walked through the doors. Everyone was so excited yelling and clapping. Ellen woo-d back at us, and finally as we quieted down, we took our seats. Ellen looked like Ellen. Ellen sounded like Ellen, only a little bit different since she was microphoned.

She opened up the show with her Mother's Day lingo, then said those two amazing words… ‘let’s dance!’ After the dancing, she didn't waste any time to start giving things away. The celebrity guests were Goldie Hawn and Amy Schumer. 

For the 2017 Mother's Day Show, she gave away: $500 Amazon gift card from Amazon Baby Registry, Amazon Echo, 1-year Amazon Prime membership, 1-year Amazon music unlimited, 1-year supply of Huggies Diapers and Wipes, Babyletto Bingo 3-in-1 crib, Essentia crib mattress, Laurel & Wolf online interior design service, $500 Home Depot gift card, 4moms Moxi Stroller, 4Moms Self-Installing car seat, 4moms car seat adapter, Svan high chair with cushion, $350 Amazon gift card from Plum Organics, 2-night babymoon in Palm Springs, $500 Carter's gift card, and a Kate Spade diaper bag

And then. It was over. The show was done taping. I couldn’t believe how fast it went by. Ellen took the microphone, and expressed her gratitude for us. It was genuine, but short. Then her staff came out and passed out all the gift cards to us, the Amazon Echo, then headed to the car for the second part of the gifts, where they loaded the stroller, car seat, car seat adapter, high chair and diaper bag in everyone's cars. 

The SUV fully packed and loaded with everything from Ellen! 

The SUV fully packed and loaded with everything from Ellen! 

First of all, if you are still reading this, thanks! I know it is a long one, but I wanted to give a detailed account of my experience at The Ellen Show for her Mother's Day Giveaway! Here are some things I realized about the show:

  • Ellen is an entertainer/performer, and an amazing one at that.
  • During commercial breaks Ellen stayed and danced with Twitch and talked to the staff, which pleasant surprise.
  • Ellen mostly addresses the camera, which really gives you a warm, fuzzy feeling when you are watching from home.
  • A lot of the magic that you see in your living rooms, happens in the editing of the show.
  • They will also take anything inappropriate out in editing as well (i.e. Not everything Amy Schumer said was aired).
  • It goes by so quick, so make sure to take in every minute. 

If I missed anything and you have questions, please comment below and I will answer anything else you want to know about my experience on The Ellen Show! xox

You bet we watched the show when it aired Thursday, 5/11 and spotted me!! 

You bet we watched the show when it aired Thursday, 5/11 and spotted me!! 

Smoke Bomb Gender Reveal

Lifestyle, Marriage, FashionVeronica ArrietaComment

My heart could burst as I'm writing this because we're just so excited to officially announce that we are welcoming a sweet baby GIRL in July! We've told our family and close friends but have been keeping it a little secret from everyone else until now. I've already started to plan out her nursery and buy all the pink clothes (help!!!)! We feel so incredibly blessed for this little girl growing inside of me and we cannot wait to meet her in just a few short months. 

Dress: Old Navy ℅ (non-maternity wearing a Small)| Shoes: Sam Edelman (last summer on sale for $64 here) | Lips: NARS lip pencil in shade "Yu"

I wanted to do something different than the typical pink balloon announcement and totally fell in love with the smoke bomb gender reveal when I saw it on Etsy. If you love the idea of the smoke bomb photo shoot, here are a few tips we learned:

  1. Buy a few smoke bombs because they burn quickly. If you want a good variety of positions and chances for everyone to have their eyes open in the photo, you’ll need lots of burn time. We used 3 smoke bombs and 1 practice smoke bomb. The smoke bombs give you approx. 45-60 seconds to get the shot.
  2. Have two people handy. We had two friends help us: one behind the camera and one to light the smoke bombs/move it around once it started to fizzle out. A big shout out to Steve and Katie for making this possible :)
  3. Plan our your poses/what you're going to do. You only have a few seconds to get your photo so make sure you're 100% ready when you light it up.
  4. The wind matters! This is where the practice smoke bomb is really helpful, so you can see which way it's going to blow. 

7 Things I Love About Being Pregnant

Lifestyle, FashionVeronica ArrietaComment

Leith Grey Dress (non-maternity!! - wearing a Small), Plaid Button Down, Converse, Ray Ban Sunglasses

There are two buckets when it comes to pregnant mamas: you're either in the I love it or I hate it bucket. I happen to fall in the I love it bucket. Of course each pregnancy is different and definitely has it's good days and bad days, but to me there are far more ups than downs. Here are a few of my favorite things about being pregnant:

1. My body. It's truly amazing to think about what's going on inside my body. Yes, there's some not so fun things, but to feel the baby kick inside of me in unreal. It's by far one of the best feelings I've ever felt. Just to think about feeling and seeing your baby grow inside of you creates an intimacy you can't explain. 

2. My husband. To see him already love our baby so much fills my heart. He's been so amazing throughout my pregnancy making sure I'm comfortable, eating the right foods, taking my prenatal vitamin everyday, etc. 

3. Shopping. I've caught myself too many times asking why they don't have my size in these baby clothes. But seriously, these little clothes are just the cutest. 

4. My snoogle. My pregnancy pillow has been such a treat and has definitely helped my sleep. I know my husband cant wait until this 'third-person of a pillow' gets the boot but for now I'm going to enjoy snuggling up to my snoogle. 

5. A 9-month cleanse. Although I'm not a big drinker, going basically a year without a drop of alcohol is great on your body and a great mental refreshment. 

6 Conversations. People ask "when are you due" or "boy of girl" or "is this your first" followed by their own pregnancy/kid stories. 

7. People. People are so much nicer when they see I'm pregnant. They'll say congratulations or offer to carry things for you. Maybe it's because we've back in the South, but I'm going to go with everyone loves a pregnant person! ;-)