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6 Things Every Wedding Guest Hopes For

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Sure, weddings are about the newly married couple and sharing the covenant they just made. But it's also about your wedding guests being there to celebrate. After being both a wedding guest and a bride, I've put together a few things every wedding guest appreciates at a wedding. 

  1. Different Hotel Options - Sure we all want to stay at the St. Regis but we'd also like to pay our bills. Make sure to provide several different accommodations with different price points for guests. 
  2. Open Bar - Not having an open bar is like a cardinal sin. Try cutting back on other areas before resulting to an open bar; that's just awkward! 
  3. Short Speeches - Don't kill the mood with long speeches. Try keeping all speeches to a 3 minute max. 
  4. Smart Seating Arrangements - Make sure to consider relationships and personalities when putting together the seating charts. Also, take into account any ex-boyfriend/girlfriend situations, the last thing you want to do is seat them next to each other! 
  5. Shortened Cocktail Hour - We get that the bride and groom need to take their pictures after the ceremony, especially if you're not doing a first look. But try to minimize the time between the ceremony and reception, or at least provide lots of distractions (i.e. corn hole, booze, hors d'oeuvres, etc).
  6. Good Food - Attending a wedding with luke warm hotel food that doesn't have any flavor is the worst. All you're thinking about is where you're going to late night! 

What do you look forward to at a wedding?

How To Throw The Perfect Bachelorette Party

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How To Throw The Perfect Bachelorette Party

One of the most exciting things after getting engaged (besides the actual wedding) is the bachelorette party. Who doesn't love a weekend filled with your best friends, lots of champagne, and the "what-happens-in-[insert destination]-stays in-[insert destination]." I've rounded up a few tips to help plan the perfect bachelorette party:

Ask the bride what she wants to do (or doesn't want to do) for her bacheloretty party. Does she want a wild and crazy night around the town? A weekend getaway? A simple lingerie exchange at home? Vegas? 

Find out what her comfort level is. This will help you in the planning process to determine if she wants it G-rated or G-string. Make sure you come out of this with a clear idea of what she wants - it's one thing to get the bride loose but another to make her feel totally uncomfortable and embarrassed. 

Create a Guest List. If you're planning on going bar hoping, make sure to invite people that are over 21 years old. And if you're thinking about inviting your mom or grandmother, just consider all the activities that are planned before it's TMI for everyone in the room! 

Pick a date. If you want certain people there, make sure to set a date where your friends will be able to attend. Hint: Long weekends are always a good idea! 

Choose a Destination. If you're in a bind on picking a place, try writing down a few destinations and the writing a pros and cons list. If people are traveling, make sure to consider flight prices and travel times. 

Create an Itinerary. It's always better to be over-prepared then under-prepared. Create a detailed schedule with venues and activities so that everyone will be able to see the days, times and locations you have planned.  

Invite your guests. Once you have your plan set in stone, it's time to invite your guests. Whether you're sending a Paperless Post or mailing an invite, make sure to have them RSVP. 

Let the games being. Once your invites are sent and the guests have responded, start planning the little details like hotel decorations, custom made t-shirts, a hungover kit, and more. Make sure to make it a weekend for the books! 

Are you planning or attending any bachelorette parties this year? Leave your stories in the comments below.

Wedding Planning Tips And Lessons I've Learned

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As you already know, I tied the knot in November. Now that the wedding is over, I've had some time to reflect on the planning process as a whole. The process can be stressful with all the details, trying not to hurt anyone's feelings, keep your groom around, etc. But at the end of the day you need to enjoy the it because you only get married once! Lately, after looking at Facebook and Instagram, I feel like I have more friends that are engaged then not so I've decided to jot down a few things I learned on my way to the aisle.

  1. Set Time For Wedding Talk. Most of us could talk all day about wedding color schemes, invitations, favors, bouquets, bridesmaid dresses…sorry what was I talking about again...oh yeah! But if your fiancé is anything like mine was, then you know they get tired of hearing about wedding stuff all day. Literally, within the first 48 hours of getting engaged I was already pinning away and making up guest lists (mind you we were still in Hawaii - proposal story here) - he wanted to kill me! The only thing in my vocabulary was wedding. Luckily he pulled me out of the wedding-trans after a few weeks and brought me back down to reality. It was from that point on that I knew we needed to still be us during our engagement and I needed to learn how to turn off the wedding talk. So each week we set a certain amount of time to discuss the wedding so that it didn't take over and still allowed us to be a normal couple talking about normal things…like how the other person's day was.  
  2. Don't Be Afraid To Delegate Your Friends And Family.This was huge for me, I'm a big perfectionist and was terrified of giving things to my bridesmaids with the fear of it not being done right. But boy was I digging myself in a huge hole or what! I remember standing in my living room and looking at all the corks that needed cutting and jars to be filled with honey and lost it. A quick phone call to my friends and poof help was there! This is when I learned that you need to reach out to people around you to keep your sanity. 
  3. Take a marriage class together. We took ours with our church but I would definitely recommend taking it before walking down the aisle. Ours was five weeks long but really helped us talk about our expectations going into marriage, family history, finance, sex, love language and communication. I don't care if you've been dating 7 years or 7 months…take it, you will not regret investing this time into your marriage. The lessons we learned and practiced during our classes sets us up for success today. No, I'm not saying we're perfect but it's nice to be able to put those lessons to use (and it's definitely stopped a few escalated arguments). 

I'd love to hear any lessons you learned along the way, leave a note in the comments below.

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