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How To Change Your Name After You Get Married

Wedding, MarriageVeronica Arrieta1 Comment
How to easily change your name after you get married.

This sounds terrible but I've been married for ~9 months now and just now changed my name (eeekk). I just haven't had the time to go wait hours upon hours at social security, then the DMV, then passport. I've been dreading the whole process until I found HitchSwitch, a full-service site that simplifies the name-changing process. 

HitchSwitch makes it so easy to change your name after you're married

HitchSwitch Makes It Easy To Change Your Name After You Get Married

HitchSwitch started when two law school classmates were blown away at how complicated it was for their new wives to change their last names (finally someone that understands the struggle is real!!).

For $29-$59, I filled out an easy online form then waited 3-5 business days for the pre-filled-out documents to arrive. They arrived with indicators on where to sign or add any personal information, along with the pre-paid and pre-labeled envelopes to mail out. Hello, if that's not easy then I don't know what is!

Honestly, this has already been such a dragged out process (hello 9 months later) that I just wanted to get it over with. Yes, I could have easily waited hours on hours and do this myself, but could be doing better things with that time.

If you'd rather change your name the hard way, see below: 

1. Get your marriage license. Before you can even think about changing your name, you need the original or certified marriage license with the raised seal and your new last name on it. If you didn't automatically receive it after you got married, then call the clerk's office where you got your marriage license and request copies. 

2. Change your Social Security card. Fill out the application for a new Social Security card. Your social will be the same number, just your name will change. Then you can either go down to the local Social Security Administration office or mail in your application. If you choose to mail your application, make sure to track your package because you don't need those important documents to go MIA. You'll need to show them your SS-5 form, original/certified copy of your marriage license and valid US passport (or driver's license and birth certificate). Your new card should arrive within 10 business days. 

3. Change your license at the DMV. Yes I know, we all dread a trip to the DMV but you need to get a new license with your new name . Make sure to bring every form of identification you have because you don't want to get to the front of the line and realize you forgot something. Bring your old license, your certified marriage license, your new Social Security card, your passport, and 2 proof of residency documents postmarked within the last 30 days (i.e. a utility bill, a credit card statement, pat stub, etc.) You will also be required to pay a fee for your new license. 

4. Change your passport. You'll need to fill out a DS-5504 form, have your old passport, certified marriage license (no photocopies or notarized copies), a color passport photo, and $110 made out to the "Department of State."

5. Change your bank accounts. The fastest way to change your name at a branch is to go into a local branch location. Make sure to bring your new drivers license and marriage license. You should request new checks, debit and credit cards. 

6. Other things to change. Now that your Social Security card and driver's license is out of the way, everything else should be relatively easy. Here is a list of places to notify about your name change: 

  • Employers/payroll
  • IRS
  • Post office
  • Electric and other utility companies
  • Credit card companies
  • Landlord or mortgage company
  • Insurance companies
  • Doctors' offices
  • Voter registration
  • Investment account providers

7. Ignore 2-5 and let HitchSwitch help. Go to and choose the best option for you. It costs between $29-59 but 110% worth it in my book. Their team is also super helpful if you have any legal questions. 

6 Things No One Tells You About Your Wedding

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You've put so much thought into every detail when planning your wedding -- from the exact flowers to the chargers on the table. But even the most organized weddings have something that goes wrong. Here are six things that no one tells you about your wedding. 

1. Someone close to you will let you down....whether it's a family member, bridesmaid, or close friend. My advice to you is to talk through it, don't let it ruin any friendships or relationships. You have to remember that your emotions are running really high during this time, and you don't want to say or do anything that you'll later regret. 

2. Someone will have a conflict and have to cancel a week (or less) before the big day. Yes, it sucks and is super annoying because your seating arrangements are finalized, but no one will notice if their table is missing two people. There's no point giving yourself a bigger headache of rearranging seating at this point -- just let is go! 

3. You probably won't eat much of the yummy food that you've been picking out for months. So make sure you stuff your face during your caterer tasting (just kidding...well kinda!!). Not only will your guests will be coming up to congratulate you both during dinner, but you will want to walk around and see everyone. I recommend telling your caterer to seat and feed you a little before your guests. For example, during our wedding the staff came and tapped us on the shoulder to let us know that each meal was coming and for us to sit down. Lucky for us we were able to get a few bites in without being interrupted. 

4. Things will go wrong...but no one else will know besides you. The florist might show up with flowers different that you discussed, your photographer might be late, and you may end up pinning your dress because the bustle broke. But that is all OK. These are all the little things that don't matter -- what matters is this new life you're celebrating with your now husband, family and friends.

5. Have a designated person to hold your envelopes. This may sound strange and I hate to even say this, but moral of the story is you have gifts (aka: money) floating around on your wedding day in envelopes. And you don't necessarily know everyone running around to make your day special. Have a family member or someone you trust be the envelope holder. For our wedding, we had a custom made money bag that a family member latched onto all night! 

6. Post wedding blues are real. Don't let anyone tell you they aren't. The day after your wedding is still happy time, but you'll feel a sense of sadness because all the excitement is over. And I would be lying if I told you that months down the road it would all be OK, because seeing all the weddings on social media make me want to relive the whole thing over and over again (Or maybe it's just me?!?).

Do you have any other tips that no one tells you about your wedding day? I'd love to read them in the comments below.

For A Bride

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Everyone tells you that your wedding day is the best days of your life; but are they saying that it's all downhill from there? Don't get me wrong, my wedding day was an amazing day that I'll cherish forever. But once the pretty white dress is off and the flowers go away...the reality of marriage starts to sink in. 

I didn't think I could love him (my husband) more that I did on our wedding day. I was wrong. It's hasn't even been a full year yet and I fall more and more in love with him.

So to a bride on her wedding day, I would say cherish every second - take a step back with your now husband and take in everything you've been planning for so long. Don't worry about the details because they don't matter. And know that the love and commitment you've made to each other will only grow stronger.

Something Blue

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You've probably heard of the wedding day tradition where a bride is supposed to wear something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue. I always thought this was a silly tradition until I read The Knot and learned it's an old English rhyme that brings good luck to a bride on her wedding day. Something old represents continuity; something new offers optimism for the future; something borrowed symbolizes borrowed happiness; something blue stands for purity, love, and fidelity.

I'm not going to lie, it was difficult to find my something blue. So I wanted to share a few fun and creative ideas that I came across for my own wedding day. Can you guess which one I did?! :) 

1. Hidden Blue Stitching
Take an old dress shirt of your father’s (or any loved one) and cut out a heart to sew inside your dress. Or have your wedding date or new initials stitched in blue inside your wedding dress. 

2. Blue Lingerie or Garter
I love the blue undies or a blue garter for your something blue. Perhaps it could be fun to make your groom search for that something blue after the wedding festivities are over!

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3. Blue Nails
I love the idea of panting your pigs a shade of blue or having a blue accent nail on your ring finger (you know...just so he doesn't forget which finger to put the ring on!). I love the shades 'Something Blue' by Essie and 'Blu' by Zoya

4. Blue Suede Shoes 
I love the idea of adding a pop of color with your shoes or on the soles of your heels. Not to mention there are so many cute blue shoes to choose from. I especially love these Badgley Mischka peep-toe pumps and these Manolo Blahnik pointy toe pumps

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Top Four Questions To Ask Your Caterer

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One of my favorite parts about planning our wedding (bedside the wine and cake tasting) was picking our caterer because I knew that meant we got to stuff our faces with some delicious food (anything that has to do with food, sign me up!).

Before this whole process, I didn't realize how important it is to be on the same page as your caterer - from the style of service to the food itself. I've partnered up with Park Avenue Catering to do a round up of four key questions you should be asking your caterer when planning your wedding. 

1) What do you include in your services? Staffing? Rentals? Bar?

2) Do you use local/sustainable/organic ingredients? Can you accommodate dietary restrictions such as a gluten free, or vegan menu?

3) If I sign a contract, does that mean I am locked into my guest count? Menu? Rentals?

4) Do you charge for a tasting appointment and/or do I need to be confirmed before I taste?

PS - If you're getting married in the Napa/Sonoma area, I highly suggest working with Justine from Park Avenue Catering. They were absolutely outstanding. We got so many compliments on our food, and her attention to detail and suggestions were phenomenal. 

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8 Things A Bridesmaid Should Never Do

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Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a huge honor. When you accept the role of a bridesmaid, you take on the responsibilities that come with the job. If you can't take the time off work, can't afford it or don't want to take on the responsibilities then you shouldn't be a bridesmaid. Trust me, coming from a newlywed, it's better to gracefully say no then to be a bad bridesmaid. I've heard about bad bridesmaids first hand and how they've ruined friendships. However, being a helpful and supportive bridesmaid will make for lifelong memories. 

Here are 10 things bridesmaids should absolutely not do:

#1. Don't ignore the bride. Make sure to respond to the bride's questions, messages, etc. You don't want to make her life harder when she's trying to make arrangements. 

#2. Put in your input when it's not needed. Weighing in on wedding decisions is not your place, just don't do it; even if the bride is asking you, she's really just looking for a sounding board. 

#3. Don't get too intoxicated at the rehearsal dinner. Do you want to be miserable on the wedding day? 

#4. Never tell your deepest secrets during a speech. This is not a roast my friends. 

#5. Never complain about the dress, even if it's satin and barbie pink. Your day will come; didn't you watch 27 Dresses! 

#6. Don't miss any of the pre-wedding events unless you live out of town or the bride genuinely tells you to skip it! 

#7. Order your dress sooner rather than later. There's nothing worse than a bridesmaid that waits until last minute to get her dress and your fighting with Fedex to make sure it arrives on time. 

#8. Don't order your dress too small thinking that you're going to loose weight before the big day. You can always take in a dress in but if it's too small then you're SOL. 

Do you have any horror bridesmaid stories?