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Advice To My Younger Self

Veronica ArrietaComment

As my 26th birthday is approaching (it's March 3rd, since you're asking!), I can't help but to reflect on my life. When I was a young girl, I couldn't wait to grow up. But now that I'm actually 'growing up,' I wish it would slow down. My grandmother always told me: I wish I could put a brick on your head so you'll stop growing [insert brick here].

Sometimes I can't help but think, if I would have done that differently, or handled that situation better, or where I would be if I took that job. But it's all those 'what ifs' or decisions made that shape you into the person you are today. Yes, I'm sure some of them could have been done differently, but I don't regret anything. Here are a few pieces of advice I'd tell my younger self: 

People will come and go. I'm a huge people pleaser, which is one of my strengths and weaknesses. Overtime, I've learned that people come and people go: friends, classmates, significant others, etc. I was recently stalking myself on social media, looking at my old posts and pictures throughout various stages and people in my life. It's so crazy how your memory can bring you back to that exact place. Although, I can't help to wonder 'what if' we were still friends, or why our friendship drifted a part, or where my life would be without him/her; I also realize that people enter our life for a reason and leave for a reason.

For all you know, it may be a blessing that they are no longer in your life. If your paths are meant to cross again - they will. 

Appreciate your parents and let them know how much you love them. For my (almost) 26 years of life, my parents have always been there. I may not have appreciated it when I was younger, but the older I get, the more I've realized how much hard work, commitment, and sacrifice these two humans have given me.

So when you get in trouble for lying, or staying out past curfew, or yelling at them because they 'don't know anything,' know that it's because they love you. They are shaping you to be a person of good character.

Always love them and tell them you love them while they're still alive. Because guess what, one day they won't be here for you to tell them and you'll regret not telling them enough. 

Stay true to yourself. Don't change who you are or what you stand for because of the people around you. As my mother-in-law always says: Tell me who you walk with, and I'll tell you who you are.

Surround yourself with positive influences that can mentor you and feed you wisdom. You don't have time for anything less.

Be independent. Learn to support yourself. You are in control of your own life and your choices. If you don't know the answer to something - figure it out.

What would you tell your younger self?  

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