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Balancing Friends And Significant Others

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I'm going to be brutally honest here, ever since I've been with my husband (then boyfriend and fiancĂ©) I've left my friendships slide a little. My college days were probably the worst in terms of putting him in front of friendships, but now that we've been together for seven years and have some baggage under us, I've been able to correct my mishaps and make time for both my significant other and friendships. 

I think it's a natural thing, you start growing your relationship with your significant other and in the process, you start seeing your friends less and less. After been through both sides, I've realized you can't put all your time and energy into one person, you need to have your own full independent life. Here are a four things I do to have balance in my relationships:

1. Create a weekly date. I'm not talking about a date with your significant other, but a date with a friend. Date nights are important to my husband and I, so why wouldn't I make it a priority with my friends also. We've figured out that some nights are tough with work and schedule conflicts, so make we it a breakfast or lunch date. I always look forward to our weekly dates to get an update on each others lives.

2. Plan a annual trip. My best friend lives in Atlanta, so naturally that doesn't make seeing each other easy. We try to schedule at least one trip a year so we can look forward to seeing each other and make new memories. 

3. Get a workout buddy. Take a workout class or train with a friend. If you're going to be working out anyways, why not kill two birds with one stone. Not to mention having a friend as your accountability partner always helps. 

4. Share the night. Some of us (me included) like to spend as much time with their significant other as possible. So plan a happy hour drinks with your friends and dinner with your honey. 

Being independent will help you in your life and relationships. I'd love to hear how you balance your significant other and friendships? Leave me a note in the comments below. 

 

What's Your Love Language?

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What's your love language? | Four Threads

Have you heard of the 5 love languages? I had always assumed that the language that makes us feel loved is the same language that others feel, but that's where I'm mistaken. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch. 

For example, my love language is Words of Affirmation, which is spot on for me. I feel most loved with a positive verbal gesture that shows that you care. An "I love you" or "great job" makes me feel acknowledged and loved.  

Interestingly enough, Mike's love language is Quality Time, which means that my verbal affirmation doesn't really do the trick with him. Instead, he feels most loved when we're spending one-on-one time together, whether we're on a date night or just sitting on the couch and talking. Realizing this has really helped both of us in becoming better partners to each other. In fact, there's already been a few instances in our marriage where I've had to say "no" to certain things because we needed quality time with one another. 

So you're not in a romantic relationship? Lucky for you, these love languages translate to friendships and even parent/child relationships too. This can truly change relationships across the board -  the fascinating thing is you could be missing each other's love language all along. 

What's your love language? How do you show love to someone with a different love language than you? If you don't know your love language, take the test here.

Date Night

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Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads

Date nights are on the top of our list when it comes to spending time together. When we first got engaged, we set a weekly date night and have carried it into our marriage. It's so easy to get lost in the daily grind of work, catching up with friends, and work dinners. We see each other a good amount throughout the week but neither of us consider watching an episode of Suits or Blacklist quality time. 

We like to try something new on our date nights, whether it's a new restaurant in the city, taking a road trip, exploring a new city, making a fun meal together, taking a class together, etc. 

One of my recent favorites was the Golden State Warriors basketball game. Neither one of us had been to a game so it was nice because we got to experience together. It didn't hurt that the Warriors are killing it right now in the league!

I'd love to hear some of your date night ideas, leave me a comment below!

Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
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