I mentioned in my first post that I'd bring you up to speed on my life. After all, after the proposal comes finding a photographer for engagement photos, right. We took our engagement photos in Golden Gate Park and Baker Beach. This was our first time having a photographer shoot us together so we tried to have as much fun with it! Here are some of our favorites...
As you already know, I tied the knot in November. Now that the wedding is over, I've had some time to reflect on the planning process as a whole. The process can be stressful with all the details, trying not to hurt anyone's feelings, keep your groom around, etc. But at the end of the day you need to enjoy the it because you only get married once! Lately, after looking at Facebook and Instagram, I feel like I have more friends that are engaged then not so I've decided to jot down a few things I learned on my way to the aisle.
- Set Time For Wedding Talk. Most of us could talk all day about wedding color schemes, invitations, favors, bouquets, bridesmaid dresses…sorry what was I talking about again...oh yeah! But if your fiancé is anything like mine was, then you know they get tired of hearing about wedding stuff all day. Literally, within the first 48 hours of getting engaged I was already pinning away and making up guest lists (mind you we were still in Hawaii - proposal story here) - he wanted to kill me! The only thing in my vocabulary was wedding. Luckily he pulled me out of the wedding-trans after a few weeks and brought me back down to reality. It was from that point on that I knew we needed to still be us during our engagement and I needed to learn how to turn off the wedding talk. So each week we set a certain amount of time to discuss the wedding so that it didn't take over and still allowed us to be a normal couple talking about normal things…like how the other person's day was.
- Don't Be Afraid To Delegate Your Friends And Family.This was huge for me, I'm a big perfectionist and was terrified of giving things to my bridesmaids with the fear of it not being done right. But boy was I digging myself in a huge hole or what! I remember standing in my living room and looking at all the corks that needed cutting and jars to be filled with honey and lost it. A quick phone call to my friends and poof help was there! This is when I learned that you need to reach out to people around you to keep your sanity.
- Take a marriage class together. We took ours with our church but I would definitely recommend taking it before walking down the aisle. Ours was five weeks long but really helped us talk about our expectations going into marriage, family history, finance, sex, love language and communication. I don't care if you've been dating 7 years or 7 months…take it, you will not regret investing this time into your marriage. The lessons we learned and practiced during our classes sets us up for success today. No, I'm not saying we're perfect but it's nice to be able to put those lessons to use (and it's definitely stopped a few escalated arguments).
I'd love to hear any lessons you learned along the way, leave a note in the comments below.
I mentioned in my first post that I'll be catching you up on some big life events so we can get to know each other - well what better way to start then our engagement story!
Mike and I had planned a little getaway to Hawaii last May. He had never been before and I hadn't gone since I was little so we decided on two totally different islands: Maui and Kauai.
Before the trip we talked about everything we wanted to do on each island. We both really wanted to watch the sunrise from 10,000 feet above sea level on Mount Haleakala. I mean, how could you not? Your above the clouds watching the sunrise, I don't know what's more beautiful and romantic.
On May 14, 2014 the sunrise was at 5:49am. So we woke up at 2:30am, packed up our sweatshirts, towels and blankets (its freezing cold up that high - ironic because you're in Maui) and got in the car to drive 2 hours up Mt. Haleakala.
Once at the top, we parked the car at the crater and hiked up 10 minutes to get away from the crowd of people. We sat down at the highest point we could with three other people. We had about 15 minutes until sunrise so we cuddled up in the blankets to stay warm - yes my fingers were numb! Though it was freezing, it was absolutely breathtaking being above the clouds and looking at the moon light. Mike told me to go take pictures of the moon, which took a little convincing because I was already so cold. While capturing the moon, Mike had made friends with the couple next to us (which if you know Mike then you know that's not uncommon).
A few minutes later, the sun started peeking through the clouds. Mike asked his new "friend" to take a picture of us. While taking the picture Mike says "I love you" and grabs my both of my hands and gets down on one knee and asked if I would marry him (this part gets pretty blurry...I'm pretty sure I blacked out). We're still not sure if I even said "yes" because there were happy tears and kisses!
This was by far the best and biggest surprise! It was truly a surreal moment with the sun peeking through behind us, clouds below us, and we were the closest we could get to God above us.
We called all of our family and friends on the 2 hour drive back to our hotel where they treated us to mimosas and celebratory leis at the Andaz Maui in Wailea. The day couldn't have been planned any better, it was absolutely magical and romantic.
Are you recently engaged or married? I'm a sucker for romance - I would love to hear your proposal story. We're you surprised? How did he do it? Leave a comment below...I want all the deets!! :)