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What's Your Love Language?

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What's your love language? | Four Threads

Have you heard of the 5 love languages? I had always assumed that the language that makes us feel loved is the same language that others feel, but that's where I'm mistaken. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch. 

For example, my love language is Words of Affirmation, which is spot on for me. I feel most loved with a positive verbal gesture that shows that you care. An "I love you" or "great job" makes me feel acknowledged and loved.  

Interestingly enough, Mike's love language is Quality Time, which means that my verbal affirmation doesn't really do the trick with him. Instead, he feels most loved when we're spending one-on-one time together, whether we're on a date night or just sitting on the couch and talking. Realizing this has really helped both of us in becoming better partners to each other. In fact, there's already been a few instances in our marriage where I've had to say "no" to certain things because we needed quality time with one another. 

So you're not in a romantic relationship? Lucky for you, these love languages translate to friendships and even parent/child relationships too. This can truly change relationships across the board -  the fascinating thing is you could be missing each other's love language all along. 

What's your love language? How do you show love to someone with a different love language than you? If you don't know your love language, take the test here.

Date Night

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Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads

Date nights are on the top of our list when it comes to spending time together. When we first got engaged, we set a weekly date night and have carried it into our marriage. It's so easy to get lost in the daily grind of work, catching up with friends, and work dinners. We see each other a good amount throughout the week but neither of us consider watching an episode of Suits or Blacklist quality time. 

We like to try something new on our date nights, whether it's a new restaurant in the city, taking a road trip, exploring a new city, making a fun meal together, taking a class together, etc. 

One of my recent favorites was the Golden State Warriors basketball game. Neither one of us had been to a game so it was nice because we got to experience together. It didn't hurt that the Warriors are killing it right now in the league!

I'd love to hear some of your date night ideas, leave me a comment below!

Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
Date Night: Warriors Game | Four Threads
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Love Is Hard

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Love Is Hard | Four Threads

Love is a beautiful thing but it's a process - it's something that takes time, it's about compromise. To me, love means that you want to dedicate your life to someone - in my case, my husband. Yes, there are (and will be) times that it's hard to love him, times when I question our love towards each other, but also times when I love him so much that I can explode. 

Love is something so important to me and I found it with my husband. Throughout our relationship, I've learned that everyday you have to work at love. Sure, there are days that I don't want to show love but I made a commitment to love him unconditionally for the rest of my life.

If you're married or in a relationship, you should enter with the expectation that love is hard; but it's amazing at the same time. Not everything is going to go as planned, you're going to face challenges, you're going to argue, you're going to experience milestones and life together but at the end of the day you have your best friend...you're on the same team!