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6 Things No One Tells You About Your Wedding

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You've put so much thought into every detail when planning your wedding -- from the exact flowers to the chargers on the table. But even the most organized weddings have something that goes wrong. Here are six things that no one tells you about your wedding. 

1. Someone close to you will let you down....whether it's a family member, bridesmaid, or close friend. My advice to you is to talk through it, don't let it ruin any friendships or relationships. You have to remember that your emotions are running really high during this time, and you don't want to say or do anything that you'll later regret. 

2. Someone will have a conflict and have to cancel a week (or less) before the big day. Yes, it sucks and is super annoying because your seating arrangements are finalized, but no one will notice if their table is missing two people. There's no point giving yourself a bigger headache of rearranging seating at this point -- just let is go! 

3. You probably won't eat much of the yummy food that you've been picking out for months. So make sure you stuff your face during your caterer tasting (just kidding...well kinda!!). Not only will your guests will be coming up to congratulate you both during dinner, but you will want to walk around and see everyone. I recommend telling your caterer to seat and feed you a little before your guests. For example, during our wedding the staff came and tapped us on the shoulder to let us know that each meal was coming and for us to sit down. Lucky for us we were able to get a few bites in without being interrupted. 

4. Things will go wrong...but no one else will know besides you. The florist might show up with flowers different that you discussed, your photographer might be late, and you may end up pinning your dress because the bustle broke. But that is all OK. These are all the little things that don't matter -- what matters is this new life you're celebrating with your now husband, family and friends.

5. Have a designated person to hold your envelopes. This may sound strange and I hate to even say this, but moral of the story is you have gifts (aka: money) floating around on your wedding day in envelopes. And you don't necessarily know everyone running around to make your day special. Have a family member or someone you trust be the envelope holder. For our wedding, we had a custom made money bag that a family member latched onto all night! 

6. Post wedding blues are real. Don't let anyone tell you they aren't. The day after your wedding is still happy time, but you'll feel a sense of sadness because all the excitement is over. And I would be lying if I told you that months down the road it would all be OK, because seeing all the weddings on social media make me want to relive the whole thing over and over again (Or maybe it's just me?!?).

Do you have any other tips that no one tells you about your wedding day? I'd love to read them in the comments below.

Top Four Questions To Ask Your Caterer

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One of my favorite parts about planning our wedding (bedside the wine and cake tasting) was picking our caterer because I knew that meant we got to stuff our faces with some delicious food (anything that has to do with food, sign me up!).

Before this whole process, I didn't realize how important it is to be on the same page as your caterer - from the style of service to the food itself. I've partnered up with Park Avenue Catering to do a round up of four key questions you should be asking your caterer when planning your wedding. 

1) What do you include in your services? Staffing? Rentals? Bar?

2) Do you use local/sustainable/organic ingredients? Can you accommodate dietary restrictions such as a gluten free, or vegan menu?

3) If I sign a contract, does that mean I am locked into my guest count? Menu? Rentals?

4) Do you charge for a tasting appointment and/or do I need to be confirmed before I taste?

PS - If you're getting married in the Napa/Sonoma area, I highly suggest working with Justine from Park Avenue Catering. They were absolutely outstanding. We got so many compliments on our food, and her attention to detail and suggestions were phenomenal. 

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8 Things A Bridesmaid Should Never Do

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Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a huge honor. When you accept the role of a bridesmaid, you take on the responsibilities that come with the job. If you can't take the time off work, can't afford it or don't want to take on the responsibilities then you shouldn't be a bridesmaid. Trust me, coming from a newlywed, it's better to gracefully say no then to be a bad bridesmaid. I've heard about bad bridesmaids first hand and how they've ruined friendships. However, being a helpful and supportive bridesmaid will make for lifelong memories. 

Here are 10 things bridesmaids should absolutely not do:

#1. Don't ignore the bride. Make sure to respond to the bride's questions, messages, etc. You don't want to make her life harder when she's trying to make arrangements. 

#2. Put in your input when it's not needed. Weighing in on wedding decisions is not your place, just don't do it; even if the bride is asking you, she's really just looking for a sounding board. 

#3. Don't get too intoxicated at the rehearsal dinner. Do you want to be miserable on the wedding day? 

#4. Never tell your deepest secrets during a speech. This is not a roast my friends. 

#5. Never complain about the dress, even if it's satin and barbie pink. Your day will come; didn't you watch 27 Dresses! 

#6. Don't miss any of the pre-wedding events unless you live out of town or the bride genuinely tells you to skip it! 

#7. Order your dress sooner rather than later. There's nothing worse than a bridesmaid that waits until last minute to get her dress and your fighting with Fedex to make sure it arrives on time. 

#8. Don't order your dress too small thinking that you're going to loose weight before the big day. You can always take in a dress in but if it's too small then you're SOL. 

Do you have any horror bridesmaid stories?