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6 Things No One Tells You About Your Wedding

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You've put so much thought into every detail when planning your wedding -- from the exact flowers to the chargers on the table. But even the most organized weddings have something that goes wrong. Here are six things that no one tells you about your wedding. 

1. Someone close to you will let you down....whether it's a family member, bridesmaid, or close friend. My advice to you is to talk through it, don't let it ruin any friendships or relationships. You have to remember that your emotions are running really high during this time, and you don't want to say or do anything that you'll later regret. 

2. Someone will have a conflict and have to cancel a week (or less) before the big day. Yes, it sucks and is super annoying because your seating arrangements are finalized, but no one will notice if their table is missing two people. There's no point giving yourself a bigger headache of rearranging seating at this point -- just let is go! 

3. You probably won't eat much of the yummy food that you've been picking out for months. So make sure you stuff your face during your caterer tasting (just kidding...well kinda!!). Not only will your guests will be coming up to congratulate you both during dinner, but you will want to walk around and see everyone. I recommend telling your caterer to seat and feed you a little before your guests. For example, during our wedding the staff came and tapped us on the shoulder to let us know that each meal was coming and for us to sit down. Lucky for us we were able to get a few bites in without being interrupted. 

4. Things will go wrong...but no one else will know besides you. The florist might show up with flowers different that you discussed, your photographer might be late, and you may end up pinning your dress because the bustle broke. But that is all OK. These are all the little things that don't matter -- what matters is this new life you're celebrating with your now husband, family and friends.

5. Have a designated person to hold your envelopes. This may sound strange and I hate to even say this, but moral of the story is you have gifts (aka: money) floating around on your wedding day in envelopes. And you don't necessarily know everyone running around to make your day special. Have a family member or someone you trust be the envelope holder. For our wedding, we had a custom made money bag that a family member latched onto all night! 

6. Post wedding blues are real. Don't let anyone tell you they aren't. The day after your wedding is still happy time, but you'll feel a sense of sadness because all the excitement is over. And I would be lying if I told you that months down the road it would all be OK, because seeing all the weddings on social media make me want to relive the whole thing over and over again (Or maybe it's just me?!?).

Do you have any other tips that no one tells you about your wedding day? I'd love to read them in the comments below. 

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Top Four Questions To Ask Your Caterer

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One of my favorite parts about planning our wedding (bedside the wine and cake tasting) was picking our caterer because I knew that meant we got to stuff our faces with some delicious food (anything that has to do with food, sign me up!).

Before this whole process, I didn't realize how important it is to be on the same page as your caterer - from the style of service to the food itself. I've partnered up with Park Avenue Catering to do a round up of four key questions you should be asking your caterer when planning your wedding. 

1) What do you include in your services? Staffing? Rentals? Bar?

2) Do you use local/sustainable/organic ingredients? Can you accommodate dietary restrictions such as a gluten free, or vegan menu?

3) If I sign a contract, does that mean I am locked into my guest count? Menu? Rentals?

4) Do you charge for a tasting appointment and/or do I need to be confirmed before I taste?

PS - If you're getting married in the Napa/Sonoma area, I highly suggest working with Justine from Park Avenue Catering. They were absolutely outstanding. We got so many compliments on our food, and her attention to detail and suggestions were phenomenal. 
 

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4 Details Wedding Guests Won't Notice

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As a bride, it's so easy to get caught up into making every detail perfect, but in reality, no matter how much money you throw down there are some things that aren't worth splurging on because no one will remember or even notice. 

Think about the most recent wedding you went to….go it? Now, what do you remember from that wedding? Ours was the music and booze…but you also remember if the food was typical hotel wedding food or not, so we added that to the list too! Here are the 4 details that your guests won't notice. 

#1. Favors. Brides go so out of their way to make them perfect, but in reality unless you can eat them, no one really cares. We had local honey in mason jars at our wedding, which I thought was a great idea and got compliments on it but in reality it wasn't worth the headache and sticky mess of getting the honey into the jars. 

#2. Fancy Table Linens. We have the pressure of making our wedding look Pinterest perfect but a good place to save is table linens. The tables are covered with centerpieces, plates, silverware, and glassware, so instead of getting all fancy with table linens (which adds up on each table) try making the centerpiece stand out more. 

#3. Out of season flowers. Do you like setting your money on fire? I had my heart set on peonies but a wedding in November just wasn't going to cut it. Talk to your florist about the best options for substitutes. 

#4. Nice china. I'm a sucker for gold rimmed china just like the next girl, but unless you've already budgeted for it - it's not really necessary with dimmed lighting and already plated meals. 

What other details did you save on for your wedding? 

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Wedding Planning Tips And Lessons I've Learned

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As you already know, I tied the knot in November. Now that the wedding is over, I've had some time to reflect on the planning process as a whole. The process can be stressful with all the details, trying not to hurt anyone's feelings, keep your groom around, etc. But at the end of the day you need to enjoy the it because you only get married once! Lately, after looking at Facebook and Instagram, I feel like I have more friends that are engaged then not so I've decided to jot down a few things I learned on my way to the aisle.

  1. Set Time For Wedding Talk. Most of us could talk all day about wedding color schemes, invitations, favors, bouquets, bridesmaid dresses…sorry what was I talking about again...oh yeah! But if your fiancé is anything like mine was, then you know they get tired of hearing about wedding stuff all day. Literally, within the first 48 hours of getting engaged I was already pinning away and making up guest lists (mind you we were still in Hawaii - proposal story here) - he wanted to kill me! The only thing in my vocabulary was wedding. Luckily he pulled me out of the wedding-trans after a few weeks and brought me back down to reality. It was from that point on that I knew we needed to still be us during our engagement and I needed to learn how to turn off the wedding talk. So each week we set a certain amount of time to discuss the wedding so that it didn't take over and still allowed us to be a normal couple talking about normal things…like how the other person's day was.  
  2. Don't Be Afraid To Delegate Your Friends And Family.This was huge for me, I'm a big perfectionist and was terrified of giving things to my bridesmaids with the fear of it not being done right. But boy was I digging myself in a huge hole or what! I remember standing in my living room and looking at all the corks that needed cutting and jars to be filled with honey and lost it. A quick phone call to my friends and poof help was there! This is when I learned that you need to reach out to people around you to keep your sanity. 
  3. Take a marriage class together. We took ours with our church but I would definitely recommend taking it before walking down the aisle. Ours was five weeks long but really helped us talk about our expectations going into marriage, family history, finance, sex, love language and communication. I don't care if you've been dating 7 years or 7 months…take it, you will not regret investing this time into your marriage. The lessons we learned and practiced during our classes sets us up for success today. No, I'm not saying we're perfect but it's nice to be able to put those lessons to use (and it's definitely stopped a few escalated arguments). 

I'd love to hear any lessons you learned along the way, leave a note in the comments below.

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