Have you heard of the 5 love languages? I had always assumed that the language that makes us feel loved is the same language that others feel, but that's where I'm mistaken. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch.
For example, my love language is Words of Affirmation, which is spot on for me. I feel most loved with a positive verbal gesture that shows that you care. An "I love you" or "great job" makes me feel acknowledged and loved.
Interestingly enough, Mike's love language is Quality Time, which means that my verbal affirmation doesn't really do the trick with him. Instead, he feels most loved when we're spending one-on-one time together, whether we're on a date night or just sitting on the couch and talking. Realizing this has really helped both of us in becoming better partners to each other. In fact, there's already been a few instances in our marriage where I've had to say "no" to certain things because we needed quality time with one another.
So you're not in a romantic relationship? Lucky for you, these love languages translate to friendships and even parent/child relationships too. This can truly change relationships across the board - the fascinating thing is you could be missing each other's love language all along.
What's your love language? How do you show love to someone with a different love language than you? If you don't know your love language, take the test here.